Another symptom of rejection I had: the longing for attention vs. the desire to be invisible. That’s a dichotomy to be sure. It has to do with who you’re with. Are you with people you know who will love and accept you unconditionally—or with those you don’t know? #rejectionissues #rejectionsymptoms #rejectionhope TWEETABLE
Rejected people are selfish by nature. Because we need to have acceptance. When we get something we want, we feel that’s when people accept us. When we’re denied, we’ve been rejected. #rejectionissues #rejectionsymptoms #rejectionhope TWEETABLE
Are you jealous of what others have? Do you long to have more than you do? Have you ever acted on those feelings of envy? Can you be happy for someone else who got what you wanted? #rejectionissues #rejectionsymptoms #rejectionhope TWEETABLE
I found this post from 2015. It published a week or so after my “Please Get Your Facts Straight” post — the highest viewed post in one day I’d ever had. What was the right thing to do? You tell me. Do you demand an apology for those who have hurt you? @donnalhsmith #rejectionissues #rejectionsymptoms #rejectionhope TWEETABLE
Are you ready to move past your pain? Do you want to be free from condemnation, self-hatred, low self-esteem? Can you open your heart enough to forgive? Let’s look at it. @donnalhsmith #rejectionissues #rejectionsymptoms #rejectionhope TWEETABLE
Writing contests are important in showing you where you’re at as a writer. When I first entered Meghan’s Choice (MC) in the ACFW Genesis contest back in 2014—she didn’t even make the semi-finals (the top seven entries)
I took all the criticism (HARD) but tried to incorporate what the judges said to improve my story and my writing. I’d learned from some of the best writers and I tried to learn well.
I got MC professionally edited, which helped a lot. Then, I got my courage up and entered more contests. I entered the last Operation 1st Novel—and made the semi-finals of that (one of ten).
I also entered Best Opening Paragraph and Best First Page and The Golden Leaf at the Advanced Novelist Retreat in 2015. It got 3rd in Best Opening Paragraph, and 2nd in Best First Page, and Honorable Mention in Golden Leaf.
That encouraged me. So, when I wrote Rose’s Redemption (RR) last year, (and 2017), I got it edited, and I entered contests. She did well! 1st place in BOTH Best Opening Paragraph and Best First Page. And 2nd in Golden Leaf. RR also made the finals of the Phoenix Rattler (ACFW Arizona).
Last year, I entered MC in three contests, and made the finals of two of them. So, this year, I entered RR in one contest.
If she doesn’t win, I may be somewhat disappointed, but I’ll survive it. Just knowing I made the finals cut is extremely satisfying.
Both Meghan’s Choice and Rose’s Redemption are available from Amazon. Here are the links if you’d like to check them out.
Last week I talked about anger, and how an emotional wound of rejection feels—paper cut vs. knife to the heart. How do we get past this? That’s what this series is all about. We need to release anger in a “healthy” non-destructive way. In order to do that we cannot carry the anger around with us like a ball and chain—because that’s exactly the picture of unforgiveness and carrying grudges. #rejectionissues #rejectionsymptoms #rejectionhope TWEETABLE