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Rejection Issues Revised — Part VI Attention v. Invisibility

Another symptom of rejection I had: the longing for attention vs. the desire to be invisible. That’s a dichotomy to be sure. It has to do with who you’re with. Are you with people you know who will love and accept you unconditionally—or with those you don’t know? #rejectionissues #rejectionsymptoms #rejectionhope TWEETABLE

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Rejection Issues Revised — Part I

Instead of re-blogging a short series from four years ago, I’m revising it—because this issue is too important to me, and others. I also have more healing and understanding than I did four years ago. How do you take criticism? Does it feel like a stab wound or a cut? @donnalhsmith @a3writers #amwriting #rejectionissues #rejectionsymptoms […]

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Happy BLOG Birthday—Part 5

Today, I’m going to post from my series two years ago on APD. It stands for Avoidance Personality Disorder, and although I was never formally diagnosed, I exhibited or felt most of the signs. Otherwise known as Root of Rejection or Rejection Syndrome, I had this from before birth—having the personality type more affected by […]

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Addendum to APD Series

I realized that I’d forgotten to address certain symptoms of APD and what they look like––plus, how to deal with them, whether you’re the person with APD or a loved one or friend. At the root of APD is some sort(s) of childhood trauma(s). But finding acceptance heals. Click to Tweet #APD #rejection Shyness is […]

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APD––Part XV As We Come to The End

These last couple months, I’ve been sharing true life stories as I remember them about some of the most painful rejections from my past. I’ve also talked about the healing I’ve gotten in stages, and what God has done with that. Anyone suffering from rejection can be healed. It just takes love and patience. Click […]

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APD Part XIII––Fantasies

Now that I’ve shared some of my history, and finally figuring out what my problem was, I’m going to shine a microscope on some of the symptoms, especially the ones I recognized in myself. We all fantasize, but those with rejection may seem to daydream more. Click to Tweet #amwriting #rejection #APD

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APD Part XII––Politics

They say never to get involved in politics unless you have a thick skin. Oh wait! They say about writing, too. Well, I did dabble in politics for a short time in the 90s. In an election, there are always winners and losers. The key is to be involved, and if you win, great. But […]

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APD Part XI––You’re Fired, Part II

I so enjoyed giving a break to all my negative APD stuff by talking about what’s happening now. I’ll do that again soon. Getting fired from a job with APD is tantamount with being rejected as a human being. Click to Tweet #amwriting #rejection #APD From Wikipedia: Problems in occupational functioning

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APD Part X––You’re Fired

Last week, I alluded to a series of job failures from the time I graduated college. I was in grad school when the first occurred. Misunderstandings and miscommunications in the workplace are a symptom of APD. Click to Tweet #amwriting #rejection #APD From Wikipedia: Problems in occupational functioning

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APD Part IX––And So it Begins

For five years, from the time I was a senior in high school, until I graduated from ORU, I had few rejection incidents. Then I graduated, and couldn’t get a job in my chosen field of broadcasting. Today’s job market is more sophisticated than the 1970s. Networking is rapidly becoming the best way to secure […]

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