Disappointments and Expectations—Part II
It seems that weekly someone disappoints me. I always have high hopes and expectations for people I’m involved with. Click to Tweet. I always hope for the best, so when they fail me, or I have failed them, or I have just failed, it’s a hurt and anger that needs to heal. #disappointment #expectations
Let’s look again at the definitions. Disappoint: Webster’s definition—to fail to satisfy the hopes or expectations of; to undo or frustrate (a plan, intention, etc.) to thwart (whether it was intentional or not). Expect: Webster’s—await, wait for; to look for as likely to occur or appear; to look forward to, anticipate. (Faith in what we hope for is involved here.)
Every rejection I get is a disappointment to me. I choose to have a positive attitude that maybe, just maybe, I’ll get what I expect, and what I expect is the best. So when I don’t get the best, but I get a rejection, argh. I fuss about it. What I’m trying to do now, is fuss less. I take the time to feel the letdown, the hurt, the rejection, process it as quickly as possible, and get over it. It’s my Forgive, Release, and Move on strategy of healing.
Last week, I was again disappointed in some little request I’d made. I figured I knew what the answer would be before I made the request, but I still made it in a vague hope. So, when I got the rejection, I fussed about it for a couple of hours, and then let it go. Because—I don’t have time to nurse a grudge, I don’t have time to wallow in self-pity like I used to.
I have a life and I want live it to the fullest. Disappointments have stood in my way too long in the past. They’ve hampered my emotional recovery and skewed my thinking. I’m changing my mind about them. I choose to live and let go. I’m letting go of the past, remembering it, but choosing to release fault, blame, or guilt—either my own or someone else’s.
Jesus said, “I have come that you might have life, and have it more abundantly.” I want to live by that. I like that.
What about you? Where are you in the process of letting go of the past, it’s pains, disappointments, and unmet expectations? Click to Tweet Leave a comment and let me know. #disappointment #expectations
Always enjoy reading your blog, Donna! I can identify with your feelings and it’s good to know I’m not the only who experiences these types of emotions. I would say it’s fairly typical for women our age to more quickly process disappointments and get over them because we know that life is short and every day is a new day to live to the fullest.
Thanks for your thoughts Dorothy, although I know if I didn’t follow God or was even halfway healed of rejection, it would still take me a l-o-n-g time to get over disappointment. I’m actually choosing to get over it faster, because the natural man loves to wallow. 🙂 Always love to hear your thoughts. Blessings. 🙂