I found this post from 2015. It published a week or so after my “Please Get Your Facts Straight” post — the highest viewed post in one day I’d ever had. What was the right thing to do? You tell me. Do you demand an apology for those who have hurt you? @donnalhsmith #rejectionissues #rejectionsymptoms #rejectionhope TWEETABLE
Webster defines disappoint as “to fail to satisfy the hopes or expectations of, to leave unsatisfied.” Another meaning is “undo, frustrate, thwart.” They’re going to us from time to time. It’s how we handle them that matters. Click to Tweet #handledisappointment #forgivereleaseadvance
It says in the bible that hope doesn’t disappoint, but it’s our hope in Christ that doesn’t disappoint. Our hopes, dreams, expectations of others will disappoint. We live in a fallen world, and people are not perfect, so they will hurt and disappoint us.
I recently emailed a friend to see if she was going to go to a regional writers’ conference we were both at last year. (See Please, Get Your Facts Straight). She actually won something there, but it turned out a disappointment because promises weren’t kept, advice wasn’t given, and my friend’s book is still unpublished.
Neither of us is going back this year. I’ve dealt with my huge disappointment a year ago and yet the memory still stings a little, as when a scar is bumped while it’s healing.
- Forgive what happened, people, events, etc.
- Release the pain (this is vital)
- Advance (move forward, take a step)
In the next few weeks, I’ll concentrate on each of these three. Because we can’t move forward until we release the pain, disappointments, and hurts from the past. It’s a process, but we can move past the wounds into a freedom, joy, and abundance. Click to Tweet #handledisappointment #forgivereleaseadvance
Many people make New Year’s resolutions every year, then fail to keep them. I learned a long time ago that although you or I may want to change our lives with a new start, our human frailties get in the way, and we fail miserably. This year, I resolve to change in only one way. Instead of making a list, I’ll focus in on one thing. #onething #noresolutions Click To Tweet
It seems that weekly someone disappoints me. I always have high hopes and expectations for people I’m involved with. Click to Tweet. I always hope for the best, so when they fail me, or I have failed them, or I have just failed, it’s a hurt and anger that needs to heal. #disappointment #expectations
I’ve had my share of life’s hurts and disappointments, and whenever something would happen, I would respond in all the wrong ways. I’d be angry, hurt, and wounded for a long time. I mentioned three words last week that are My Three Leys to Heal: 1) forgive 2) release 3) move on. I’ll be talking about those today. Click to Tweet #forgivereleasemoveon #threekeys
I was recently at a writer’s conference with other Christian writers. I met one of the speakers for the first time, even though I’d emailed her before. She was pleasant to talk to and I felt a connection with her which I hope we can develop further.
I attended her fiction-track session and it was interesting. But during her presentation, she said something that grieved my heart. Her emotional pain and wounding spilled out. Her big thing is “truth.” People should be truthful in their writing, tell the truth. What she meant by this is to not gloss over, cover up or dilute the truth of what we’re writing.
Last week, I talked about what happened at a writer’s conference. You can check out my post HERE.
Some of you let me know by comment or email that you think I should “demand” or at least “ask for” an apology from conference organizers. But I’m not going to. Here’s why.