Getting Inside the Romantic Hero’s Head—Part VI

This time, we’ll conclude our series of Getting Inside the Romantic Hero’s Head. Because there is so much to writing a romance. I’ll be getting to some “Nuts & Bolts” of writing “clean” romance while satisfying the reader. It’s not just “chemistry” that brings two people to love. Love is a decision based on factors of attraction. Click to Tweet #InsideHerosHead #donnalhsmith #almostanauthor #writingromance101

For the past number of posts, we’ve been working on various aspects of creating a contemporary story called “Romancing the Rabbi.” Our two main characters are Tovah and Judah. We’ve been looking at both the romantic lead characters. Tovah is a rabbi who lives in Brooklyn. Judah is a CEO who lives in Manhattan, but is originally from Jerusalem, Israel.

What does bring people together? Qualities of attraction. Physical qualities, their personalities, their fun little “quirks,” and their personal tastes.

We’ve established that Tovah, a rabbi, gets tongue-tied around Judah. There’s just something about him that attracts Tovah. She likes the kinder and gentler type of hero. Alpha males don’t like her, because she’s too strong for them. She likes to be in charge, because she has a teaching and leadership gift. But the gung-ho soldier-type bull in a china shop male is not for Tovah.

So, when she meets Judah, instinctively, she knows he’s not an alpha male. He’s strong in character because he’s had to be, but his personality type is that calm, laid-back kind of guy who is sensitive to a strong female without feeling inferior to her.

When Judah meets Tovah, and she stumbles around her words, it actually endears her to him. He’s sensitive, and instinctively knows Tovah is nervous around him. He doesn’t know why, but he is amused and sensitive enough to want to get to know her better. Her being a rabbi in charge of the synagogue Judah attends, doesn’t bother him at all.

Let’s revisit a scene from several weeks ago — when they first meet.

The lady rabbi greeted everyone as if she were at a wedding reception and she was the bride. Judah wiped his hand on his pants. The last thing he wanted was for his sweaty palm to touch the rabbi’s in a welcoming handshake. Almost immediately, Judah’s palm moistened again. Was he nervous? There seemed to be something pass between them when he handed her the papers that had flown from her podium.

Uh oh. He was next in line. His heart began to beat faster. For the life of him, though, he didn’t know why.

“Hello. Welcome to synagogue today.” Her voice was just as natural as it had been while speaking the message.

He swallowed. “Shabbat Shalom.”

“Shabbat Shalom.” The lines around her mouth crinkled as she smiled. A sweet little smile that seemed to light up his heart. Where’d that thought come from?

“I—I wanted to thank you for picking up my papers today. I—I can’t imagine what happened.” Her lip quivered a bit.

“You’re welcome. Anyone else would have done the same.” Was she as nervous to meet him as he was meeting her? How could that be? She’s a rabbi. He’d never known a lady rabbi before. He’d grown up conservative in Israel. But he knew things were changing little-by-little.

He smiled to himself. She stumbled over her words in conversation, even though eloquent from the stage. She was human, after all. A woman…with likes and dislikes. He liked her.

What factors, characteristics, and qualities do you look for in a date, or a mate? The romantic lead will need to recognize what she likes and doesn’t like. The hero also needs a certain amount of self-knowledge to know what kind of woman he is attracted to. Click to Tweet #InsideHerosHead #donnalhsmith #almostanauthor #writingromance101

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

The Mickey Mindset

Celebrating the Art of Disney Storytelling

Live to Write - Write to Live

We live to write and write to live ... professional writers talk about the craft and business of writing

Kristen Lamb

Author, Blogger, Social Media Jedi

Joseph E Bird

Let's talk about reading, writing and the arts.

For a purpose

The blog site of Rick Wade


Where it is a good thing to be an outcast.


We have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; let your light shine through your cracked pot. Ring the bells that still can ring, Forget your perfect offering, there is a crack in everything, That's how the light gets in and comes out.

loon watchman

stark raving sane.

Kelly F Barr

"A story without love is empty." -- Kelly F. Barr

Beautiful Life with Cancer

Discovering the Gift

Vonj Production

Bringing you love through spirit!

A christian dad blog

Just a dad following God's path


A blog full of humorous and poignant observations.


easy reading is damn hard writing

Funny Dog Moments

Funny Tales of Cinnamon the Cute Guard Dog

Life Through the Big Screen

A podcast where I invite guests from all walks of life to discuss their favorite movies, and we use that film as a starting point to talk about deeper issues such as faith, politics, and social issues.

A Writer's Path

Sharing writing tips, information, and advice.

%d bloggers like this: