Rejected people are selfish by nature. Because we need to have acceptance. When we get something we want, we feel that’s when people accept us. When we’re denied, we’ve been rejected. #rejectionissues #rejectionsymptoms #rejectionhope TWEETABLE
It’s hard to be unselfish about something you really want. We live in a “me me me!” society. It’s all about me! I want! I want! I want.
Sometimes, we’ll go to pretty drastic lengths to get what we want. If a guy or gal desires someone who doesn’t give them the time of day, a rejected person will almost become their stalker. Or that person becomes “obsessed” with obtaining the other person’s love and affection.
From there, things go downhill to the “If I can’t have them, no one else can, either.” That’s the epitome of rejected selfishness—in a sick and criminal way.
But that’s just it. Rejected people are sick in their souls. Their hearts have been wounded, their emotions damaged.
However, even a person with rejection issues has a choice. They may not think they do. But we all have a choice in how we respond to life’s wounds. With so many taking the low road, it’s hard to release our pain. We feel justified.
John the Baptizer said in Luke 3:10-11. “The crowds asked, ‘What should we do?’ John replied, ‘If you have two shirts, give one to the poor. If you have food, share it with those who are hungry.’”
Jesus took that further and said, in Luke 6:27-31 about turning the other cheek (Ooo! Hard to do when wounded.), giving and sharing (hard to do when someone takes it), and “Do to others as you would like them to do to you.”
A rejected person might misconstrue that. We might be able to do that if everyone else did that. Very few do, however. A rejected person would be more likely to mistreat someone who had already mistreated them. That starts a vicious circle of rage and pain which can easily turn to nastier things.
How do we heal from jealousy and envy? Be willing to share your gifts with others. Give and receive love. Receive more love. And then give away more love so you can receive more love. It’s still a matter of the heart. Your heart. #rejectionissues #rejectionsymptoms #rejectionhope TWEETABLE
Have rejection issues affected you? Leave a comment and let me know.